The Secret to Happiness and Success - On Your Own Terms

Socrates said that the beginning of wisdom is theto, or overcome.
definition of terms. You should begin your quest forMuch misery comes from chasing other people's ideas
happiness and success by defining exactly whatof success and happiness. "If I looked like THAT, I'd
"happiness" and "success" mean for you - otherwise,be happy;" or, "If I had THAT, I'd be happy..." Sure,
how do you know you don't already have it? YouTHAT house and THAT car and THAT job might
won't find success until you are happy and knowmake you happy. But what if it doesn't? Where did
exactly what success means to you; and you won'tyou get that definition of success you've been
be happy until you decide to be.chasing? Do you even remember? And what about
You may think that you don't have happiness in youryour definition of, "Happiness;" since when did, "Good
life because you are feeling unhappy right now. Itenough," become good enough?
may seem obvious to you that you are looking forDecide what success and happiness are to you; and
happiness because you don't feel happy, andthen decide to be happy. It might not seem that
therefore are not happy. You may even beeasy at first; but it is that simple. Let-go of your old
frustrated because happiness is so elusive, or seemsideas about not being able to be happy unless some
so far away. If only you could find happiness... Thenparticular thing happens, or unless you achieve, attain,
you wouldn't have to suffer anymore.or acquire certain things; and let-go of your
The secret to finding happiness is in knowing whereattachment to the past - and all the things that
to look. Happiness is inside you. Even when you arehappened to you, and all the things you lost. Then,
looking into the dark, scary, sad, or lonely corners ofdo what you love, and what naturally comes next.
your mind, happiness is still in there waiting for you toEventually - probably a lot sooner than you think -
look in its direction. Define what happiness is to you,your thoughts and actions will have brought you
and then you'll know where to look - what thoughtswhat you were looking for. Don't be worried or afraid
to think and what images to dwell upon.that you are doing the "wrong" thing; listen to your
It has been said that success is: Loving who you are,heart and stay your course. If you've decided to be
what you're doing, and how you're doing it. There ishappy regardless of your circumstances, situation, or
no financial component to this formula; nor are thesurroundings, success is already yours; and you have
actions and moods of others a factor in your successeverything it takes to successfully live the life of
and happiness. Of course others can affect you andyour dreams - happiness, imagination, and faith in
your plans - but usually only if you allow them to.yourself and your dreams.
And, in any case, there is nothing you cannot adapt