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| Learn the keys to mastering communication. Better | | | | most often not even realize that they are being |
| communication can equal more happiness and inner | | | | effected by your body language, however they are, |
| peace in your life. | | | | it happens on a subconscious level. |
| Learn the keys to improving your communication skills | | | | Pay attention to your body language. First of all make |
| and become more effective in getting what you | | | | sure you are standing up straight with your shoulders |
| want in your life. | | | | back. Good posture communicates confidence. |
| The reason why most people have unsatisfactory | | | | Everyone is attracted to a person who is truly |
| results in their life, is because they have poor | | | | confident. You are much more likely to have |
| communication skills. People get frustrated when they | | | | someone say yes to you, when you exude self |
| don't get what they want,and often times don't | | | | confidence, than if you do not. Another tip is to |
| realize it is because they did not communicate clearly, | | | | avoid standing with your arms folded in front of you. |
| what it is they wanted. | | | | Arms folded communicates that you are stand offish |
| Poor results come from poor communication, not | | | | and blocking the other person from getting through |
| only in personal communication, but also in | | | | to you. It also communicates disinterest. |
| metaphysical communication. Many times people do | | | | Eye contact is so important, because of so many |
| not get exactly what they want in life because their | | | | reasons. I will just cover a few reasons here. For one |
| communication to the Universe or the Higher Power | | | | thing, it shows strong self confidence. It also allows |
| and to themselves is unclear. | | | | you to have a strong connection with the person |
| You must be very clear on exactly what it is you | | | | you are communicating with. A lot of people do not |
| want when communicating with another person, The | | | | trust a person that avoids eye contact and building |
| Universe, or yourself. | | | | trust is the number one component to effective |
| I know you may be thinking, what do I mean with | | | | communication. Eye contact can be hard for some |
| yourself. A lot of times we are wishy washy with | | | | people. If you are someone who has difficulty with |
| what we want. We tell ourselves "I kind of want | | | | maintaining eye contact, begin practicing now. It |
| this,but I also kind of want that." or "I guess that | | | | begins with awareness, then practice, then mastery. |
| would be alright.". We need to be very specific with | | | | One of the most important skills that you can |
| ourselves of exactly what it is we want. We cannot | | | | practice and master is maintaining good eye contact. |
| express clearly, to someone else, what we want if | | | | Next comes the words that we use. Even though |
| we are unclear, about what we want, ourselves. | | | | words are only 7% of our communication, they are |
| First we will discuss how to communicate with your | | | | still extremely important and require conscious |
| Higher Power to get what you want, then we will | | | | awareness to use them effectively. There is so much |
| discuss how to communicate with other people. I am | | | | to cover, when it comes to the words we use. I will |
| using the term "Higher Power" or "Universe" because | | | | share some resources for you to study on your |
| I do not want to offend any one's religious beliefs. | | | | own, that will help you with everything that we just |
| You can replace the term Higher Power with God or | | | | covered. First let's cover what I believe to be one of |
| whatever name you believe the creative source to | | | | the most important things to be aware of when it |
| be called. The principles for communication will be the | | | | comes to the words you use. |
| same. | | | | Most people's main focus when they communicate is |
| To manifest what you want in life, from a | | | | on themselves. They use the word "I" over and over |
| metaphysical standpoint, I would highly encourage | | | | again. Understanding that most people's main interest |
| you to sit quietly with a pen and paper, and write | | | | is themselves can be a very valuable tool for you. |
| exactly what it is that you want to create in your | | | | One of your greatest tools to be a great |
| life. Write what you want in great detail. The more | | | | communicator is to stop using the word "I", "Me" and |
| detailed you are, the better. Remember, this is about | | | | "My" so often and start using the word "You", "Your" |
| being extremely clear about what it is that you want. | | | | and "Yours" much more often. People love to talk |
| After you have written what it is that you want, I | | | | about themselves, and if you let them do it, you will |
| would highly suggest that you read what you wrote | | | | be their most favorite person in the whole world, |
| one to three times a day out loud. This will benefit | | | | because most of the people they talk to are talking |
| you in two ways. First, it will help your mind get | | | | about themselves most of the time. |
| extremely clear and focused on exactly what you | | | | Another important thing to realize is that people love |
| want. Your mind being clear will help you stay | | | | the sound of their own name. Use a persons name |
| focused, take proper action and communicate to | | | | often during a conversation with them. They will be |
| others in a more clear, concise and effective manner. | | | | putty in your hands. |
| The second benefit is, the two most powerful ways | | | | Remember, God gave us two ears and one mouth |
| to communicate with the Universe, to manifest, is | | | | so talk less and listen more. And really listen, a lot of |
| through writing and speaking. Writing creates the | | | | times when another person is speaking we are |
| most energy, with speaking creating the second | | | | caught up in our head thinking about how we are |
| most energy. Writing and speaking to the Universe | | | | going to respond or just waiting for our turn to |
| are your two most powerful ways to create what | | | | speak. Listen with you complete focus and attention |
| you want. | | | | on what they are saying then trust that you will be |
| Now let's talk about our everyday communication | | | | able to respond organically. The best communicators |
| with other people. There are many elements that go | | | | are the best listeners, not the best talkers. |
| into positive effective communication. There is verbal | | | | To really master these skills and take your |
| and nonverbal communication. | | | | communication to a whole new level, I would highly |
| The words that we use only make up 7% of our | | | | recommend that you begin to study NLP. NLP stands |
| communication. The other 93% is voice tone and | | | | for Neuro Linguistic Programming. By mastering NLP, |
| body language. What that means is, before you have | | | | you will become a master of influence. NLP will cover |
| even said a word, you have already said a lot. | | | | the best way to use your words, how to build |
| It is very important to practice paying attention to | | | | powerful rapport, how to read other people and so |
| your body language and voice tone. It is important to | | | | much more. |
| be aware of your voice tone, when you speak. Have | | | | Here are a couple of tips on how to build powerful |
| you ever had someone ask you for something in a | | | | rapport. Match the speaking style of the person you |
| whiny sounding voice; or how about in a very | | | | are talking with, whether it is in person or over the |
| demanding tone of voice? Think back to when | | | | phone. It is a good idea to match the voice tone and |
| someone has approached you with either of these | | | | speaking speed of the person that you are talking to. |
| voice tones. Did you really want to give them what | | | | Another powerful tool is to mirror the body language |
| they were asking for? Probably not, you were | | | | of the person you are communicating with. Don't |
| probably pretty turned off by their approach. Having | | | | mimic them, just subtly mirror them. When you do |
| a friendly confident tone can be very effective. | | | | this you are sending them a subliminal message that |
| Body language is huge! So many people are giving the | | | | you are just like them. |
| wrong signals and they don't even realize it. Your | | | | Remember, no matter where your communication |
| words and voice tone may be saying one thing, but | | | | skills currently are, you can always be better. To be |
| your body is saying something very different. The | | | | a better communicator it just takes self awareness, |
| non verbal speaks louder than the verbal, always. | | | | the desire to be better and practice. |