Effective Interpersonal Communication With NLP Representational Systems

Our communication with others usually starts with ourour minds, through our five senses (Seeing, hearing,
thoughts, resulting in words, tonality and bodyfeeling, taste and smell) is known as Representational
language. There are many ways to define "thoughts",Systems in Neuro Linguistic Programming, and
and one of them is how we use our senses internally.understanding it makes a significant improvement to
All of us use some senses more often, and these areyour interpersonal communication skills. Having
usually our dominant ones. Understanding a person'sdifferent preferred representational systems is one
dominant senses, or representational systems asreason why we encounter difficulties in getting our
known in NLP, will allow us to effectivelymessages across to others sometimes.
communicate our messages by speaking in a mannerIf you are a visual person whose dominant sense is
that will be well received by that person. Ourseeing, you will likely speak in a manner that include
communication with others usually starts with ourmany pictures and visual words. A kinesthetic person
thoughts, resulting in words, tonality and bodyon the other hand, will speak with many feeling
language. There are many ways to define "thoughts",words. Also, they will find it easier to relate to feeling
and one of them is how we use our senses internally.words as compared to visual words.
We use our senses outwardly to perceive the world,A point to remember is that representational
and inwardly to represent experience to ourselves.systems are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to
When recalling experiences, such as a time you wentrecall a scene, and include the sounds and feelings
to the beach, what appears in your mind first?simultaneously, though it is quite rare for all to be
Maybe a picture of the beach would appear. Perhapsused together all the time. Most of us tend to have
you hear the sounds of the waves and childrenone or two representation systems that we prefer
playing, or the feeling of how relaxed you were justwhen thinking.
sitting by the sea.Also, it is possible to develop and improve. For
When you ask a group of students to describe theirexample, a person who is mostly visual might have
form teacher, you could get a variety of answers.difficulty learning music initially. However, with
One student might recall the hairstyle and dressingpractice, they can also develop the audio aspect of
first, followed by the teacher's voice, and how he ortheir representational systems.
she feels about the teacher's lessons. Another mightSo to conclude, if you want to build rapport with
first recall that the teacher has a very deep andothers and get them to understand you easily, take
powerful voice, followed by how the teacher alwaysresponsibility for the way you communicate and use
makes the class feel interesting, and lastly, how thewords that are suitable for their preferred
teacher looks.representational systems.
This method of taking in and storing information in