Effective Communication: Tell Them What Time It Is, Not How to Build a Watch

We’ve all had people like this working for us,Comparisons
or with us. People who couldn’t communicateTurns people off vs. Turns people on
their knowledge in a way that was effective,Self-centered vs. Helpful
engaging, informative and interesting. What a wasteDisliked vs. Liked
of talent!Example
Do we have an obligation to make what we sayAlistair droned on, turning the presentation into a
interesting? No, but if we want people to listen to us,pedantic ego-trip, showing off how much he knew.
we must!He argued points that were strictly academic to the
Do we have an obligation to make our knowledgepoor people trying to understand the theory of
accessible and informative to others? No, but whatEmotional Intelligence and use it in real time. The HR
use is it if we don’t?Director watched the participants eyes glaze over
Did you ever work with someone who knew theirand knew she had just wasted the
stuff but turned you off so completely youcompany’s valuable time and money, and
didn’t want to stick around to get theprobably turned the employees off to the idea of
valuable information or assistance you needed? InEmotional Intelligence as well.
fact you avoided them and so did other colleaguesGraciella, on the other hand, was a coach who was
and customers?clearly erudite and really knew her stuff. She was
Do you have someone working for you now who isable to engage the group and excite them about the
just so academic about things, even though youpractical possibilities of applying emotional intelligence
know they’re an expert, you can’tto their work culture. They hung on her every word
ever ‘get’ anything that’s useful in-- and most of her words were one-syllable! The HR
real time?Director knew they would leave the meeting with a
Or maybe you know someone who simply bores youclear understanding of the major points, and
to tears, droning on and on, making you hunt throughenthusiasm for applying what they’d learned.
a bog of verbiage for what you need. This is theKey Point
person who, when you ask what time it is, tells youIt's okay to know a lot, in fact it's a good thing and
how to build a watch. Way more than you needed,makes you a valuable employee, partner, and person,
or wanted, and such a waste of your valuable time.but only if you use it in conjunction with your
DefinitionsEmotional Intelligence. If you are arrogant about it, or
Pedantic - Boringly scholarly or academic; narrowly,unable to express your valuable knowledge in a way
stodgily, and often ostentatiously learned, as inthat engages other people, it won't matter what you
showy or vainglorious.know. No one will be listening. (EQ matters more than
Erudite - Possessing or displaying extensiveIQ.)
knowledge acquired chiefly from books; profound,It’s okay to know a lot. It’s not okay
recondite (difficult for others to understand orto be a know-it-all.
comprehend) or bookish learning; to gain knowledgeBenefits
or understanding of or skill in by study, instruction, orBetter communication and teamwork.
experience