The Cure for Self-Consciousness

Self-consciousness defined... excessively conscious oftruth?
oneself as an object of observation by others.The mind is a prolific field for the growth of all kinds
Self-consciousness is a very dangerous and negativeof thought. If false and negative ideas are allowed to
emotion. The victim of self-consciousnesses says totake root in the field of your mind, they will spread
himself:like weeds with wonderful rapidity, and may easily
· "What impression am I making?" ·discourage and overwhelm you. If you have long
"Do I look well?" · "What are they thinkingneglected this "mental field" you may now find
and saying about me?" · "I am not equal toyourself in a bad way.
this," · "I lack so many things," · "If IThe remedy for you, and for others so situated, is
had only been born right," · "I shall surely fail."to patiently root out every obnoxious habit and to
Now this defense mechanism isn't necessarily asubstitute strong, healthy, positive thoughts in their
stumbling block. It is a safeguard against rashness andplace. You must at first be content with small
over-confidence. The evil of extremevictories, since you have permitted this mental field
self-consciousness is that it makes you do so manyand garden to be overrun with these objectionable
things that you do not wish to do. It can change youthought habits. But you can comfort yourself with
line of conduct a hundred times a day, makes youthe assurance that in this way you can and will attain
say "yes" when you would rather say "no," and, insuccess.
short, robs you of you power and individuality.Timid people concern themselves too much about
What is the remedy for this dreaded extremewhat others will think and say. They are constantly
elf-consciousness?studying the impression they are making upon people
It is mainly a matter of securing control of yourwho probably are not even thinking of them. Their
thoughts and intelligently directing them. The mind is asuper sensitiveness causes them to imagine
machine, which must be made obedient to thethemselves being criticized, slighted, and unfairly
owner's will. When brought under subjection, it willcondemned by those who are probably too absorbed
serve your highest and best purposes, but left toin their own affairs to notice.
itself it - may run easily to confusion and destruction.You may be on the road to success when a single
Here you may interject, "But my mind wanders."act of timidity may derail your chances. People lose
Then go after it and bring it back. You say you canconfidence in you if you lack faith in yourself.
not? Who is operating your mind? Does it run itself?Courage is admired, fear never is. Courage is dignified,
What would you think of a train that had nofear is repulsive. The person of courage is welcomed
engineer, no conductor, no one to direct it, and waseverywhere, while fear invites itself to a seat in the
allowed to run anywhere? Yet this is what yourear.
permit with your train of ideas. Be sensible. Take holdEveryone should learn to stand firmly upon their own
of yourself seriously. Set your will to work. Straightenfeet.
your spine. Take time today for mental overhauling."Intellectual intrepidity," says Samuel Smiles "is one of
You are about to educate your will - and it is seriousthe vital conditions of independence and self-reliance
business.in character. A person must have the courage to be
Procrastination will not do. From this time forwardhimself, and not the shadow or the echo of another.
resolve to control and direct your mental powers forHe must exercise his own powers, think his own
definite purposes.thoughts, and speak his own sentiments. He must
Constantly hold in your mind a high estimate ofelaborate his own opinions, and form his own
yourself, but be sure you have reasons for doing so.convictions. It has been said that he who dare not
It is of little use to say you are well if you are ill. Doform an opinion must be a coward; he who will not,
not deceive yourself. You are no greater than themust be an idler; he who can not, must be a fool."
sum of your thoughts and habits. You must haveSuper sensitiveness is a major fault by which you
good and sufficient reasons for your self confidence.lose initiative, self-reliance, and independence. A
· Are your impulses of a noble nature?self-conscious person must, sooner or later, rid
· Is your ambition lofty? · Do youthemselves of this fault if they are to be
high ideals and do you work persistently to realizepreeminently successful by directing their attention to
them? · Are you doing the best you can?the power of self confidence.
· Do you have an uncompromising love for